are almost never told how their family histories, beliefs and
emotions can affect their fertility. Knowing this information
can be very empowering. Niravi has courageously led the way to
the creation of a whole new language and approach to fertility….Very
often when couples really engage in the transformational work
Niravi presents here, a child indeed is conceived.
Northrup, M.D., Author of Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom
| The Whole
Person Fertility Program is a unique book, the first in the field
of reproductive health to call for a broader vision of fertility
than our culture has now, a vision that goes beyond biology and
whether or not one has a biological child. Fertility is not a
medical condition: it is a lifelong relationship with oneself.
Ph.D., Author of A Woman's Book of Life
| It is
wonderful to come across a book that so poignantly expresses the
human desire to heal the self of physical and emotional wounds.
The Whole Person Fertility Program is a wonderful self-help companion
for anyone seeking emotional and psychological insight, especially
those who want to conceive.
Feen, HealthMap Magazine, September/October, 1997 issue
Whole Person Fertility Program is full of wisdom: a gift from
a wise woman to a generation of younger women struggling to create
lives of meaning, relationships, and fertility….Whether you are
seeking to bring a new soul into being or just give birth to your true
self, this book can be an invaluable resource.
Hays, M.D., F.A.C.O.G., Obstetrician and Gynecologist, Women to
I had three miscarriages in a year. My work with Niravi Payne has
allowed me to transform my
view of my body, my health, my life and my relationship with my
husband. As my husband and I indentified and resolved toxic family
patterns that had blocked feelings of self-worth,
love and creativity, we raised our "upper limits" on happiness and
our right to have a baby.
-Julia and Kenny Loggins, Authors of Imaginable Life
| I was put in touch with an incredible woman, Niravi Payne, who I spoke to twice a week.
She's a therapist who specializes in fertility issues and is author of a remarkable book, The Whole
Person Fertility Program. She believes
many fertility problems can be traced back to experiences in
the womb and in childhood, which have blocked
you. Until these experiences are released or acknowledged
you may not be able to conceive. One of my
sisters is physically and mentally handicapped, and I realized that
I was holding on to a lot of fear about that -
it was something my mother and I didn't talk about. Niravi
was brilliant when I was going through the
intensely medical procedures over which I was starting
to get very upset. I don't think I could
have gone through it emotionally without her support. I was able
to release a huge amount of stuff I'd been
holding onto all my life without releasing it. While our talks were
traumatic for me, they also made me much more
calm. Yes, I did have Flo's wonderful support,
but I needed somebody who knew what I was
going though and who also knew, ahead of me, the emotional hurdles
I would have to overcome. Counseling is not
just needed during IVF treatment, but afterwards. I knew
that if it didn't work this time, I would
desperately need Niravi to help me accept it and to move on or
-Alex Kingston British Actress, ER Marie Claire Magazine,
UK, March, 2001
Payne changed our lives. During our work with her, we birthed
two beautiful babies and deepened the bond in our relationship.
She is a dedicated warrior and a brilliant pioneer in the field
-Julia and Kenny Loggins, Authors of Imaginable Life
I read your book, The Whole Person
Fertility Program, for the first time in my life
I feel there is hope. I'm 44 years old and I have been trying
for approximately six years to conceive. I was diagnosed with
"unexplained fertility," or told my eggs were too
"old." I've always known that the high tech methods
we've tried wouldn't work, and that somehow my infertility was
based on an unconscious level. I was never looking for a miracle,
but only a fighting chance. I believe your book will give me
just what I am looking for.
via e-mail over America Online
with Niravi helps to put fertility-related issues in the context
of past and present experiences. Life's experiences are not
compartmentalized, but intimately related to each other and
thus also to fertility. One becomes more conscious of the unconscious
processes and beliefs that are at work to prevent pregnancy.
In the male dominated world of gynecology/obstetrics it is comforting
to be heard and understood by a woman.
Moser-Mercer Professor, University of Geneva, Switzerland
|Some complementary therapists claim they can aid conception
Niravi Payne, a psychotherapist and pioneer
of mind-body fertility therapy in America, believes that stress is only
one of the factors that can prevent conception. "Our endocrine, immune
and nervous systems are all intimately connected and influenced by every
thought we think and every emotion we feel," she says. "When something
significant happens in our lives, the emotionally charged experience
gets stored in our brain. Memories and experiences are also
simultaneously stored biochemically and electromagnetically in various
organ systems. Negative emotional experiences can throw off the finely
tuned hormonal balance necessary for ovulation and sperm production."
After four years of infertility, the actress Alex Kingston had a child
after having IVF treatment. During the treatment, Kingston also worked
with Payne. "One of my sisters is physically and mentally handicapped
and I realized that I was holding on to a lot of fear about that," says
Kingston. "With Niravi, I was able to release a huge amount of stuff I'd
been holding on to without realizing it."
-London Times, June 2002
Wanted to say how much I love you and your fabulous book, "The Whole
Person Fertility Program." I am 41 and still hoping to have a child (my
last two pregnancies at the ages of 38 and 39 ended in early
miscarriages). I found your wisdom and hope inspirational and freeing.
Thank you for sharing.
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